Surprising number of women care for ailing ex-husbands

Aging and disease do not only strike married people. Divorced people are just as likely to come down with serious illnesses or experience chronic health problems associated with aging. The only difference is that there is nobody around to help care for a sick person after a divorce.

Or is there? According to an article by United Press International, a study from the University of Missouri found many women caring for their ex-husbands during a serious illness or toward the end of the ex-husbands’ lives. The study suggested that such an arrangement is actually more common than many would believe, and many of the women involved enjoyed the experience. However, others did not.

The two researchers behind the study conducted a series of phone interviews with women who said they were caregivers for their ex-husband. The reasons behind the women’s generosity varied, but tended to involve the children. Having children together kept the divorced couples in each other’s lives after the marriage ended. Caring for an ailing ex-husband seems to be a way to please the children. One of the researchers said that maintaining good relations with the children was a “strong motivator” for many of the women who agreed to take care of their ex-husbands.

Some women reported that the experience was positive for them. They found that their ex-husbands’ illness softened them and made their interactions less fraught with conflict.

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The study did not examine how often men care for their ex-wives when they get sick.

 

 

Pair of bills would prevent use of Sharia law in Missouri courts

Two bills introduced in the Missouri State Assembly are meant to deal with what their sponsors perceive to be the threat of Islamic-based law becoming cited in state courts, including in family law cases. Critics of the bills say they are addressing a problem that does not exist and may be bigoted against Muslims.

The bills are sponsored by Rep. Paul Curtman, R-Pacific, and Rep. Don Wells, R-Cabool. Rep. Wells’ bill would create a constitutional amendment prohibiting judges from using “the legal precepts of other nations or cultures,” specifically mentioning Sharia law as something to be banned. His bill has 106 co-sponsors in the House, 66 percent of membership.

Rep. Wells said that Internet research conducted by himself and an aide convinced him that Sharia is “very oppressive for ladies,” presumably in divorce and other family law cases, and tends to exact violent punishment for even minor crimes. He admitted that there is no evidence that Sharia law has become influential in Missouri courts, but said that a “big push” around the world to make Sharia the law of the land could impact the state in years to come.

According to a professor and Islam expert at Washington University in St. Louis, Sharia is a set of interpretations of Muslim scripture. Sharia influences the civil laws in some countries with a Muslim majority, and in some Western countries, Muslim communities have set up Sharia councils to deal with matters of marriage or settling of estates, the professor said. Such councils have no legal authority and are similar to bodies found in some Orthodox Jewish communities.

Rep. Curtman said that his bill is meant only to prevent judges from using international laws in their decisions. But his bill is nearly identical to a model bill written by an attorney in Arizona. On the attorney’s network of websites, he claims that people who practice Sharia law are likely to be jihadists and should be deported or imprisoned for up to 20 years.

Rep. Jamilah Nasheed, D-St. Louis, called Rep. Curtman’s bill an example of Islamophobia. She said the supporters of the bill do not understand Islam.

The former dean of the University of Missouri School of Law said that it is impractical to order judges never to consider foreign laws. For example, he said, judges sometimes must apply the marital laws of a foreign country when a couple married in that country wants a divorce in Missouri or for regarding a Washington, DC estate attorney.

 

Children Removed from Charlie Sheen’s Home

Charlie Sheen may be impressed with himself, but a judge recently deciding on a restraining order against him was not. Sheen’s ex-wife Brooke Mueller was successful in getting the temporary restraining order against Sheen, which resulted in the couple’s two young sons being removed from Sheen’s home.

Sheen told reporters last night that he did not know where the two boys, who are twins, had been taken. The boys are almost two years old. Under a divorce settlement made public last month, Mueller will have primary physical custody of the boys. In the sunshine state, a Florida violation of protection order would be put out in this instance.